Love him but this isn't working

My boyfriend and I have a 1.5 year old together. Our relationship hasn't been without struggles... I think he truly suffers from his past traumas that he has never dealt with and just doesn't know how to show or actually feel his emotions and I just don't know if I can live with it anymore. I know he loves me deep down, but he shows so little affection and appreciation for me, or for life in general. I want him to be happy but I can't force him to help himself. We've been to counselling together and it did help us get to a place where we communicate better, but I don't want to live a life with someone who is so lifeless. Passionless. Cold. I'll always care about him, and wish him the best, but I want someone with whom I can make fun plans, feel spark, feel loved and enjoy loving. I want my daughter to see what a loving relationship should really look like.

I've tried for a long time to fix this relationship. He does a lot of blaming on me. A lot of me not doing enough, me not saying enough, not understanding him enough but I know now that he is just deflecting out of fear of his emotional trauma.

I'm not ready to leave at this very moment... I want to be able to stay with our daughter until she's ready for school, which seems far away now but we coparent well and it's not a abusive relationship. What do you think of this, for our daughter? Living together for now, so we can make ends meet and avoid daycare... my daughter is my life and I'd do anything to be able to stay home with her for as long as I can.