sex advice for a vanilla couple

so to start off, since I had my son a year ago I have a much higher sex drive and want sex all the time. my husband and I have been together for 6 years and he is absolutely amazing.. a few things, I do not like anal and am not willing to try it. He has never asked for it either. we never have much forplay. (sometimes I give him a bj if he isn't already on top of me) We have never used any toys but I think its something we would both be willing to try. my question is, is what are some good things to say to dirty talk, what are things I can do to "take control" and basically some naughty things I can do for him.. (he would never want anything near his hiney) help a girl out! I feel like I should add that we are both pretty shy about being verbal or kinky