Both of my closest friends have kids. And it's discouraging that every time I bring up a conversation about wanting kids they say things like don't do it, wait, get married first, it'll be too much for you right now with a new house, it's a lot of work, you can't just pick up and go where ever you want all the time anymore, etc. And then they throw the, but it's your life thing in there. I wish I had the same support I gave them when they were pregnant. It hurts even more having to hide the fact that I've been trying for months now. I've stuck up for myself but for whatever reason that's still the opinion they have.