Is it me or is it him?

I really don't understand what's going on between my husband and I but it seems like lately everything gets on his nerves or I get mad easily. So here are three examples of what happens on our daily lives. Last night he was hungry and I always feel bad when I don't make him any food because he works all day and I think he he shouldn't be up making himself food, since I stay home at day with our daughter. And don't get me wrong, he does cook for himself when I can't but it makes me feel bad you know? So he got up last night and I wasn't doing anything so I told him if he watched our daughter I would make him his quesadillas and he agreed. So I get up and I ask him a. Question, and he's response was "i would have had 5 quesadillas by now" and this bothered me because I'm really trying to be a good wife but with stupid comments like that it makes me not want to even do anything for him. While, I know I overreacting. I apologized afterwards so we were ok.

So on to my second example.

He's getting ready to leave his morning, we're good but my daughter only wants him, I know my daughter better than anyone and I am 100% she will stop crying within a minute after I hold. So I grab her and she starts to pull away trying to go back with him and he was running late so I said just go. Well he got mad because he says I'm not trying to baby talk her into coming with me, he wanted me to jump around and be silly so she wouldn't cry. Which I understand but he was running late so that wasn't going to work fast. Grabbing her and taking her and then distracting her was what I was planning on doing. So he takes her back tells me I'm boring and calls my stepdaughter over for HER TO TAKE HER BECAUSE SHE JUMPS AROUND AND ALL THAT. But I am her mom and yet I can't get my own daughter because I am not bouncing around and shit. Whatever I get over it.

He leaves and calls me like two minutes later. I can tell in his tone of voice that he was upset because he thought I had taken his lotion from the car. So he says "can you please bring me my lotion outside, I left thinking it was here where it's suppose to be" and he kind of had an attitude. So i look everywhere and I don't have it so I take him mine and while I'm outside giving him mine he finds his in the backseat. And I shake my head and he goes off on me on why I am shaking my head and that why is it in the backseat and why not in front and how is he suppose to find it like that. And all I responded was " all you gotta do is look for it" and he took off fast in his car cause he got mad.

I honestly want opinions, am I wrong? I know I was kind of wrong when I was making him food because I did start to have an attitude when he joked about him having more quesadillas than me if he was the one making them. But other than that I don't think I was wrong and his has been happening often between us. Idk what to do.