This post will be long, but I have no where else to turn 😕

So I am 28 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby girl, but this pregnancy has been very stressful to say the least. The father of the child hadn't been supportive (he told me to get an abortion, was missing appointments, not coming to visit me, etc.) we are not in a relationship whatsoever, we tried (for the sake of the baby) but of course it didn't work out. He is a liar and he just sucks as a person. Due to dealing with this pregnancy alone, I've been depressed and down. I even was admitting into the hospital because of my depression. My family supports me 100000%, but due to being in the military I am stationed away from home and can only go home on approved leave. The father tends to go and lie to his mother about how our conversations go and details about things, saying I'm "mean" to him, I don't let him come over my house, I don't tell him about appointments, etc painting this scenario that I am "keeping him away from his child" and that I am "forcing him to be a deadbeat". She basically enables his childish behavior. When baby shower planning time came around, She insisted we had a separate baby shower in THEIR hometown, and one in mine. The catch is our hometowns are an hour apart, so I felt as though there was no need for two baby showers. He wouldn't man up and tell his mother that and they kept pushing and insisting. I said forget it, I don't want a baby shower at all. 🤷🏽‍♀️ my family was like "okay, that's fine, we can just buy what the baby needs." she then proceeded to harass me and my mother through text about how "it isn't fair to Tyler (the father) and how I'm being inconsiderate of his feelings, and how I'm depriving him of the experience and trying to cut him out, blah blah blah" and it's aggravating... would I be wrong to not want her in the delivery room when the baby comes? She's just full of drama and I don't want to deal with that while I'm trying to deliver a baby.