So I told my sis that I wasn't going to reach out to her fiancé to apologize and that if he wanted to discuss things, he's free to contact me. And she WENT OFF. She told me that her and fiancé wouldn't be having this issue had I minded my own business. She also told me that her kids have no right to treat her the way they do and that it's none of my business what people say about her kids. I thought I was done last week when I got her sobbing phone call. But now I'm really done. She has made her choice and I won't be there when the shit hits the fan (which it will because she's already expressed uncertainty about marrying him and his controlling demeanor will eventually rear its ugly head). Anyway, that's all, folks!!!

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Ugh this is more of a vent than me actually seeking advice. My sister in FL has been engaged to this guy for a couple of years. My parents and I live in VA and have only met him once during a quick visit. We really don't know him well enough to form an opinion about him. I was friends with him on FB for a good while after meeting him but all I really know is that my sister is crazy about him and constantly sings his praises. Over the summer, he started posting crap on FB about my sister's children (they are both over 18). Long story short, my sister left her husband and children several years ago to pursue an affair; her children haven't had much to do with her since then and I really can't blame them (they were DESTROYED when she left them). Anyhow, her current fiance kept shaming her children over FB this summer for not being more involved in my sister's life. I thought this was so wrong on a thousand different levels. He has zero right to tell her children how to feel about their own mother. His FB shaming got to a point where I sent him a private message to ask him to please stop posting things about my niece and nephew. I was polite, but to the point. I told him I didn't appreciate him dragging them through the mud for all to see and that it bothered my parents as well when he did this. Right after he received the message, he deleted both me and my Mom from his FB friends list. My Mom and I couldn't care less and just chocked it up to him being a big baby. We laughed about it and carried on. This happened in July. So last night (two months later), I get this long, rambling call from my sister begging me to reach out to her fiance and mend fences because he thinks my parents and I hate him. Again, I've only met the dude once. I barely know this man from Adam. I don't like the things he posted on FB, but I never once said or gave any indication that I hate the man. And neither have my parents. I told my sister this and she told me he's a stubborn man and that if someone doesn't agree with his point of view then he doesn't move. She's asking me to play into his behavior by apologizing to him. In my book, that's him being a manipulative bully. He tried to use FB to bully my niece and nephew into having a better relationship with my sister. And now he's using my sister to try and bully me into apologizing for correcting his dumbass behavior on FB. It just makes me angry and sad because my sister has the shittiest taste in men and she always defends their behavior no matter what. All she cares about is having a man, even if it means neglecting all of her other relationships. BTW, last night's phone call was the first time she has called me in over six years. Like I said, not asking for advice. Just needing to vent and I really don't want to tell my parents about this phone call; they've had more than their share of dealing with my sister's awful life choices. And, no, I don't plan on reaching out to her fiance AT ALL. I'm not going to bow down to someone who publicly insulted my niece and nephew then cried to my sister that he's the poor victim because I had the balls to stand up and say something about it. No fucking way. *rant over*