My husband and I got married in May. I love him unconditionally and he loves me. I am currently working day shift while he’s works second shift and doesn’t get home till I’m asleep. Some times we go days without talking to each other because when I try to have text conversations (because it’s our only option and I want to still talk to him, of course.) he leaves me on read. Or typically responds with “lol” “yeah” “haha.”

Since I’m only pointing out the stuff that bothers me, he’s going to seem worse than he actually is but..

He rarely asks me how my day is. He makes taunting jokes and remarks constantly that come off as rude. Our relationship started as best friends, I think even though we’re married, he’s still in that phase and has no idea that he’s coming off as an asshole. I try to talk to him about it but he laughs it off cause he’s thinks IM joking and having fun with it too. I don’t know what else to say or do but I am starting to feel unloved despite the things he does for me. He’s just not an affectionate or romantic kind of guy.

I’m not sure what else to say or do. I leave him notes to tell him I love him, I’ve tried to make it clear that I’d like to feel the same kind of effort from him.

Any advice?