Stay away or get help...

Okay, so my boyfriend has two children (ages 10 and 7) from his previous marriage. Well his ex wife got addicted to heroin and chose the drugs and her fuck buddy over her kids so she hasn’t really been around for the boys or even been apart of their lives so neither of them really know her.

She has been in and out of rehab and jail and every time she gets out she always says how she is going to be “different” and stay straight to be there for her kids but she always goes back to her old ways. Well...she’s out again and for the time being she is constantly telling the boys how much they mean to her and how she’s going to be there for them.

I know I’m not their mother but I love them as if they were my own children. I care for them when they are sick, I make sure they are fed, I make sure they have the things they need and the things they want. The last thing I want is to see them get hurt AGAIN by a biological someone who can’t even care for herself. The oldest one who is 10 understands what is going on and gets so heartbroken when she ends up disappearing because she is back to her ways.

Legally their dad can’t stop her from having contact with them and if he tries, she can take him to court and he can lose custody (words from his lawyer).

The whole situation just pisses me off because the kids don’t deserve any of it. They didn’t deserve to get abandoned by her at the start of their lives and they don’t deserve to have her pop in and out of their lives when she wants to stay sober for a day. It’s not my place to say anything but I just hate seeing them get hurt by her over and over and over again.

I’m the one that picks up the pieces of their heart when she chooses her addiction over them, I’m the one who they come crying to, I’m the one they wrap their arms around and sob themselves to sleep with, and I just can’t handle them being hurt anymore...