Sorry this is long

A little back story: my husband and I have been on and off since he was a sophomore in HS and I was a junior. Now I’m almost 22, he’s 20. On and off because he lied and kissed his ex while we were together. He left for bootcamp after we started seeing each other again. After he graduated in January 2016, he started talking about wanting to get married and have me move down to NC, so I moved and we got married last July.

After our past I, of course, had trust issues. So one day while he was at work I went through his old phone that he kept hidden away in the closet. I found a bunch of nudes and pictures of other girls and messages of him asking for pictures while we were talking about marriage. But guess what, I found all of this AFTER we got married. A couple weeks went by and he said nothing like that would ever happen again.

I got pregnant in November 2016.

Come March 2017, he was planning to go home to visit family and friends before his deployment. There was this one girl who he “used to” like who I’ve never had a good feeling about, he asked if I would be okay with him visiting her because they’re “friends” and I straight up told him I wasn’t okay with it and said he wouldn’t see her if it made me that uncomfortable. But then they start messaging each other of all hours of the night WHILE he’s laying next to me, his pregnant wife, talking about plans to meet up when he gets home (oh yeah and she’s still a senior in high school).

I bring up divorce when he comes home but he says he’ll change. I gave him another chance and things were great until he left in April.

I decided to move back home with family while I was jobless due to the short time I’m home and ready to give birth. I gave birth to a healthy, beautiful baby girl and she is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Since I was jobless, husband and I got a joint account so I could get groceries and necessities. But here’s where I’m about to talk divorce for the last time. Husband is VERY immature, as you can tell by his constant childish behavior and has the mindset that the money he earns is HIS money and he can do whatever he wants with it. Who the hell needs to buy 3 pairs of Oakley’s while on a 6 month deployment? That would cover our bills for 3-4 months. We have a child now so we’re going to need another car. He thinks he’s going to wake me and our (will be) 2 month old at 4 am so I can drive him to work and pick him up later OR have him take the car and I’ll be stuck in our apartment until he gets home? I don’t fucking think so. (Not to mention, I sold my shitty car so we could get a nicer one.)

Since he’s been gone I’ve gained so much independence and confidence and I know for damn sure that I don’t deserve to be manipulated into thinking he’ll change his childish behavior and I will not be disrespected anymore.

When you’re married, you are a TEAM. You provide for your family. I know I would if I was the working parent.

He’ll be back by the end of this month and I’m ready for a divorce.

I need to set a good example for my daughter and I also don’t need to be in this situation, for myself and for her.

Am I overreacting at all?

Sorry I really just needed to get all of this out.