My Sister In Law Hates Me!

This is probably going to be a long post but I really need to know if I should just let it go. I just don’t know if I can...

So I been with my husband for over 6 years now married a year and a half 💕 love of my life. Always had my back expect when it came to his sister. 🙄

A little over a year ago my SIL’s boyfriend sent me something not really appropriate to be sending anyone other then your gf. Nothing was actually out but it was of his underwear. The picture was on Snapchat and not thinking about it I clicked out. I didn’t want to see... and my first thought was that was for sure and accident. Expecting for him to say shit sorry or not for you... nothing.

I texted my mom and said what do I do? (My angel) she said “tell your husband. Don’t make it like your hiding something.”

Good point. Well my husband was at his Aunts funeral so I of course had to wait home him to get home but it was no big deal I was thinking it was an accident still.

Well he gets home I bring it up and he said “well we should tell my sister so she knows” I’m like um if you want to but I don’t want her to turn this to me.

He said “no she is not like that you know her.” And I do so I was like alright.

We did and there was no problem.

Time went on and I noticed her getting more snippy to me. Now she always was that way but i could tell before it was because her and her brother were close and she was scared to lose him. I get it but no it got worse...

So after hanging out with the family we went home and I decided to bring it up “why does it seem like your sister is being more snippy to me?” “Like what” he goes. “Idk she just being making rude ass comments” he then decides to get angry and not yell but get loud “my sister is not like that. She would never do that”

“Wow okay I’m sorry” Dropped that shit. 💩

A couple months after that I find out my mom has cancer and has a couple years left. I pack up go to the next state and stay to take her to chemo radiation and all the drs visits. 2 months later she was gone and I had to plan the funeral all on my own.

I come back home after three months away. My husband was my rock and came down to see me ever other weekend.

Now I’m back home and very depressed and my husband is working and coming home and dealing with a crying wife. My only family gone now.

A couple weeks later my husband gets a call from his sister while I’m sitting next to him in bed. She starts yelling and saying I was keeping him from her. I didn’t want him to be with his family. That we didn’t like her bf and it was my fault. Calling me a lot of very mean names. Now I been gone for 3 months so I have no clue how in the world I could be doing that. But um okay.

So he goes to hang out with her the next day to talk and explain it’s not me he has been tired from working so much (to pay for gas to come see me so I guess it is my fault) he comes home and I ask “so is everything okay now between us??” Yes everything understood.

Yayyyy

A few days later she calls him yelling saying “she is not invited to my wedding when it comes. If she don’t like my bf then y’all just don’t come” more bad name calling.

I blocked her. I just could not handle all that and being depressed.. I wanted to die😭😭

She finally came around a couple months later and said sorry but my husband comes home and she had been texting him saying why should she has to say sorry. I should because I was rude to her and that I didn’t like her bf. Which I don’t (he did some messed up things to her but that’s a different story)

I’m done..... and I just don’t know if I should accept it and try... again. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

UPDATE: I never said anything back to her. Also she apologized the day someone else in her family found out they had cancer. She texted me and my husband and said we are invited to her wedding in a few weeks. I said I wasn’t going.. she made it clear and had a lot of reasons why she didn’t want me to come. My husband said please come with me. I said no. —

Update again: Nevermind they are having a courthouse wedding and then a big one next year so my husband said... “um we are not going then” 😂😂