Mom shamed...(long post)

I'm sorry I post a lot but I feel comfortable coming here for advice and venting. Well background my dad and I have not really gotten along very well all my life. He was in the military and just wasn't there in my life often so it was just my mom, my older brother, and I until my little brother arrived. Therefore our relationship has been eh for awhile. I'm due in November , most likely going to be induced due to my princess being iugr. I have asked those who want to see her to receive the flu and the tdap. My mom, my moms mom(who lives with them, my brothers, my fiancés parents all are wiling to get it. Oh to add, I have been talking about it since halfway through my pregnancy so it's definitely not out the blue. I asked my dad last night if his mom (who lives in Washington and is coming for my daughters birth) received the shots and that I don't feel comfortable with having anyone who have not received the shots around her because the weather is fluctuating and infants are very vulnerable. Immediately he got defensive and said that this came out the blue and how I should just become a hermit with my daughter because it hasn't been an issue before for kids. Yet I sent him an article with it stating all the statistics and such for the whooping cough. He got upset and literally said he is wasting money to bring my grandma in (his mom) and that he is just going to stay home with her if she cannot come see her. He basically thinks I'm being ridiculous and is actually fighting with my mom about it because she is abiding by my wishes. It's like he feels like he can make decisions for MY daughter and if it is not the way HE wants then basically you're shit. I do not feel as if I am doing anything wrong and I am doing what's best for my daughter because her safety and health is in my hands now.