Dealing with the in laws... help!

Hi everyone!

So my husband and I are expecting our first child in December, it's also the first grandchild on both sides. My parents and family are very excited. They're always buying bits for the baby when out and about shopping. They're always asking how I am and how baby is etc. My mum came pram shopping and helped decorate the nursery. She is also hosting my baby shower.

His family on the other hand have shown very little interest. They will ask how I am in passing if speaking to my husband about something else. They never ask about baby, his mum was very rude about our name shortlist. I have 7 weeks to go, I've seen his dad once and his mum maybe 4 times (They live 20mins away) They have shown no excitement, haven't bought baby anything (I don't mean this to sound shallow) I just don't know how anyone can't get excited about cute little baby things when out shopping. They didn't even ask to see the nursery when they did come round and they knew it was finished. My baby shower is next week and his mum has offered no help to my mum. She is just turning up as any guest, this is for her grandchild!!! She even said she had forgotten to speak to my mum about the gift list and now everything has gone.

Apologies for the long rant! I'm struggling and the lack of interest really upsets me. My husband agrees with me and says they're selfish. Always have been and will never change but I just think if this isn't enough to make you change, nothing ever will. I feel like all I do is moan about his mum and I feel bad for doing so. Is there anything I can do to MAKE them more involved? I feel like saying if you can't be bothered now then don't bother at all 😭 xx