it never ends, but I am so over it all!!

I looked at my son the other day, and it had changed. his face changed, his verbal abilities changed, his physical abilities changed. all in one day I noticed this! then I realized, its because I never focus on him. we never have one on one time. I am always too busy with my own things that I never pay attention to him. instead of playing with him i am doing school work. instead of reading to him, I am cleaning, instead of making good nutritional food for him I pass him a snack. I am at a loss. I have so much to do and it never gets done. the dishes, the laundry, cleaning, picking up toys, yard work, trash, school work....the list goes on. as I look around I get overwhelmed, and all I want to do it clean. but then I never get time with my boys. I miss out on their development. how do you guys get it all done and still have time with your kids? I don't want to miss out anymore!!! I feel horrible. we never even get out of the house. I get up at 6 and am cleaning or doing school work until 10, and then i realize I haven't spend real quality time with my boys, just enough time to pass a snack at the oldest and breastfeeding the youngest. I tried making a schedule, and it doesn't help, it still doesn't get done. I need help!!