Is my marriage over?

Today my husband and I got into the largest fight we ever have in 2 years of marriage, 6 years of friendship. He called me a Bitch and I busted his lip. It ended in me packing a bag and leaving for the night. This all started over a small fight where he said that I make him feel “hen-pecked” or de-masculined. The fight was literally this: he wanted to go out tonight and I asked that when he gets back from the bar that he spends time with me rather than heading straight to sleep. I’m having a hard time because I ask nicely, I always ask nicely and it turns into him saying that I’m bossing or hen-pecking. He feels like I take away his freedom, I feel like he doesn’t appreciate me. How can I fix this??