I think my husband may have Aspergers Syndrome...

I’ve known for a while that my husband was a little “socially awkward” but I didn’t think anything more about it. I spoke to a friend of ours, whom he’s known since high school, and she told me that she thinks he might have Aspergers Syndrome, even though he’s never been diagnosed.

I started researching the symptoms and it was a real eye opener; it was scary, because they fit my husband perfectly. Just to name a few: he rarely makes eye contact, his voice is a flat monotone with no inflection (no matter what he’s talking about), very few facial expressions, very little to no empathy for anyone, only interested in himself and his personal interests. And the hardest for me is that, no matter what, I’m always, ALWAYS wrong. Never accepting responsibility for his actions and never apologizing, because he’s not the one with the problem.

Now, with that being said, I love this man and I want to make it work. However, he refuses to believe he has any kind of problem whatsoever, so seeing a doctor is out of the question. He will be furious if I even suggest he has a problem.

Is there anything I can do to be loving and supportive? It’s getting really hard to be with him; he’s very selfish and self-centered, not interested in anything that doesn’t affect him, my needs are hardly ever taken care of, I can’t communicate with him about anything he doesn’t want to talk about, and when I bring it up, it’s always my fault and not his. If he does have Aspergers, it’s not his fault, but it’s hard being with someone who only thinks of himself.

Is there anything I can do? I’m sorry for the long post, but if anyone has dealt with this before, I would love some advice. If you got to the end of this post, thank you for reading.