Bf problems.. he isn't romantic

He doesn't have to be super romantic or anything but he's so bad at planning things.. like for prom he asked me on a piece of paper after jokingly askin me months before and laughed about it.. we've been together 4 years and 3 weeks ago we got into a fight and after he wanted to have a special day and he wanted to surprise me. Well he didn't for a couple days then I asked if we could go on a hike and he said "I was thinking we could go to the beach and look at stars" so I was a little disappointed that he didn't surprise me like he said he would but I liked the idea anyway! That night it was a perfect full moon and clear sky and we ended up not going because he was tired. He said we should go the next day but it was all cloudy. Shitty weather the past 2 weeks then out of nowhere at night when we were about to go to the grocery store (we needed food and we were stopped at the gas station) and he says "instead of getting groceries you wanna go to the beach?" And I was like... well it's 10pm and we need food.. so we didn't go. Today I said it was clear and we should go to the beach houuuurs ago and he was like yeah and I was making tater tots and he said "it's leg day" (this was 7pm) and I said "I thought we were going to the beach" and he said "it's getting late" and he didn't have work today and he doesn't have work tomorrow. I said that and he said "ok we can go" and I said "well not if you don't want to, I want you to want to go" and now he's just working out. I mean I wish he was a little more romantic and it's shitty to ask that because I would feel hurt If he thought that (because I surprise him all the time) so I try setting things up and nothing seems to work.. what do I do? Don't tell me to leave him either because that's materialistic.