Sleep train!

My baby is 9 and a half months and he is still waking up around 1:30 and 4:30-ish in the morning to feed then wakes up every 1 or 1 and half hour.

We usually make him sleep by 7:30-8 pm. Just because he wakes up so many time he is still sleeping with us on our bed.

We recently bought a new home and my husband’s work place is 30 miles from here so which is the reason I wake up early in the morning by 6:30 and go to sleep at 11:30 at night because of him coming late and having his dinner late.

I feel so tired and sleep deprived that its making really irritated like I dont want to talk aur answer to anyone and even the smallest questions from my husband make me scold him like a crazy bitch(sorry for my bad words).

We have had a huge fight becuz of my behaviour and now I cant help but cry cuz he says hez done with me. I just hope we are not ending up. I want to sleep train my kid so that he sleep till morning straight so that I can sleep atleast continuously for 5-6 hour and dont go insane by the end of the day. Please help if you know any tricks for it. Also I am afraid of making my son cry it out cuz he had a neural surgery and I dont want him to hurt himself or get any seizures dure to stress(i have read it that crying it out affects the brain and nerve cells)

Please suggest whatever you know or you can think of.

Thanks