My husband said he wants to reach out to my dad and let him know I'm pregnant despite the fact that we haven't talked in a year. He says he feels like it's my dad's right to know. I understand where he's coming from but my father and I's relationship is tarnished due to him beating me once and lying about me, and behaving inappropriately (being touchy feely and clingy. I often felt like I was his spouse instead of daughter) with me growing up. Despite how uncomfortable I was I still let him around me and my family because I thought it was the "right thing" to do. He remained clingy to me constantly calling and coming over our house 4-5 days/week 4-5 hours each time. I even let him continue to spend time with my daughter Despite him often ignoring the rules I set in place and even coming to my house anyway after I told him my husband and I didn't want company. I finally decided to cut all ties because it became too stressful and my husband would leave me to deal with it on my own because he didn't feel comfortable putting my dad in his place. I feel like if he reaches out to him, it's stepping on my toes because I don't want the lines of communication to open between us. My husband said he's going to let him know that we're having another child but he can't come around because I don't want him to. I feel like that's throwing me under the bus. I want to feel like he's making it clear that it's a decision we made and that he supports me not that he thinks I'm wrong for doing what I think is best.