Am I being selfish with sex ?!

I’m so tired of getting pounded on every time we’re intimate ! Of courses like it rough and fast but not all the time !! Afterwards I have bad stomach pains 😣I asked my DB to make love to me and his response was “ we don’t have to do it your way all the time “ which is messed up ! I am completely turned off and now I can’t even get excited for him because I already know how it’s going to end ! Am I being selfish with my request or what ? I need answers !