My husband is 13 years older than me. He is 44 and I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. We have a 2 1/2 year old boy together. We also have majority custody of his two kids 11&13 from his first marriage.

We are really struggling with a huge decision. Whether or not to have another baby. He doesn’t really want to (but says he will if I want to) and I do. I don’t want to force him to raise another child with me if he doesn’t want to but the thought of being done being pregnant, nursing, caring for another baby is heartbreaking. This situation feels impossible.

1-what should we do?

2-how did you decide you were done having kids (if you are done having kids)

3- how do I deal with the heartbreak without ruining my marriage?

Please any and all advice. I’m home with my sick baby today and he is at work and I’m alone with my thoughts and I feel like I’m dying.