What would you do?

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I have been dating a man who has been nothing but great to me I feel very happy with him. He has never pressured me to doing anything. However one thing we do not have in common is our beliefs. He does not agree with my beliefs in fact he thinks it's a brainwashing and that "we" in the belief are being controlled and cannot live life the way we wish to live life and that we are not truly happy. 
In the belief if I decide to be with him since he is a non believer I would get excommunicated and no one would be allowed to speak to me not even family members or friends. 
What would you do? Would you go about your life with him? Or would you leave him to be with someone from the same belief system?

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what kind of belief system are you in? honestly it's something you will have to decide.

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Which is more important to you: your beliefs and following them, or this guy? 
For me personally, it is difficult to date outside of my own beliefs but I am open to doing so as long as the person is respectful of them. 
If you both feel very strongly about your beliefs, but on opposite sides, then it will probably be hard. So you have to decide which one is more important to you.

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I am very curious what belief system this is.. 
In other cases, I might say to try to work it out (possibly, depending). But it sounds like this goes beyond that and there is much more at stake. The answer also has a LOT to do with YOU and what you really want. Are you willing to give up your family and friends for the freedom to date him? Do you even agree with the practice of disowning someone for who they date? Family and friends aside, do you agree with these beliefs and hope to continue with them? Because it sounds like you also can’t do that if you choose to be with him. If you are determined to stay where you are at in this system, then I would say your only option is to find someone else who shares your beliefs. It sounds like there is no way around that and you really cannot have both this guy AND your religion(?)/beliefs. Which is no fault of your own, but it means you do have to come to terms with that and make that choice eventually. 
It’s honestly a huge decision. Personally, I vehemently disagree with any religion/belief system/ideology that controls and manipulates its members to that extent, and so it is hard to respond to this without bias. To have to choose between a relationship with your family and the freedom to make your own choices about your love life is something no one should have to do. But unfortunately, that is what you are faced with. You have to decide what you want for your own future. To me, that goes beyond just this one guy. To me, this is more a matter of freedom/love/ostracism vs. religion/family/confinement. Either way, you will lose something. The question is, which is a bigger loss for YOU? And which will make YOU happier in the long run? To make that decision will require a lot of soul-searching and questioning on your part. Ultimately, this depends 100% on what you feel in your gut is most right for you. That’s something no one else can tell you.

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Listen to your gut. It will tell you what the best decision for you is. It'll come from a place of love and growth. Don't listen to the opposite voice that comes from a place of scarcity and fear.

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I'd stay if he was respectful of my beliefs.

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If you love that man and he loves you and y'all make each other happy, your family and friends should be happy that you have someone in your life that makes you feel that way!!! I know in some cases beliefs are VERY important to some people but if he can look past your beliefs and you can look past his I say stay with him. Maybe things will work out and your family/friends will come around!!!

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When it comes to a happy relationship FOR ME, that includes family's approval as well. Bc down the line if you have children, they'd be coming into a broken family. But that is just how I feel ! You do what makes you ultimately happy!

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