Did you feel more loose or tight after having a baby?

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I’m worried about having sex with my husband after having our baby 3 weeks ago, I️ feel like it just doesn’t look the same. 😰 My midwife had to cut me because she said I would have torn. We’re waiting until the 6 week mark to try but I want honest answers, did you feel more loose or more tight after having a baby?

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I had 4th degree tearing (so literally the worst you can have 🤦‍♀️) and I felt much tighter after. I got the all clear at 8 weeks pp and my husband and I have it a go that night. I’m going to be honest with you, it hurt way too bad and we couldn’t finish. It took trying about once or twice per week for a few weeks before we could successfully complete the deed.

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It should be all good down there by the time you guys have sex. It's amazing how quickly it goes back to normal. I felt tight but I think that's because I was having lubrication issues. Remember to use a little live the first few times!

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No joke, I felt like a virgin the first few times we had sex after I had our daughter. It was tighter and everything was hypersensitive it was amazing 😉

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my husband said it felt the same but it hurt me so we took it slow. use a lot of lube

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I was actually afraid of this. When my husband went in he said I was super tight and I thought it was just a pity "compliment" if you can call it that lol after I kept telling him he didn't have to lie and he swore it was tighter and that everything was good. Don't worry. It goes back. Well, I at least can speak after the first child. I'll let the multiple birthing ladies re assure you of the rest lol

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Honestly I had an episiotomy, and a 7lb Baby, I felt like a virgin, it sucked the first couple times. 
Side note I read an article that generally almost all vaginas go back and it’s a really tiny percentage of woman have “loosening” after a baby.

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I read an article recently about an absolutely abominable practice performed by some doctors called "the husband stitch". It has been proposed as a reason some women feel tighter and often have pain during intercourse following childbirth. 😡

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Felt exactly the same.

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We waited 7 weeks and despite having a 9 lb baby and 2nd degree tear it was waaay tighter than it's ever been. My advice is use lube and go slow.

Did you feel more loose or tight after having a baby?

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