Unaffectionate partner


I don't feel like I demand an abnormal amount of affection . But my SO isn't terribly affectionate unless he wants to get some .. I hate that disconnected idea that no build up is needed .. ever .. I've talked to him about it and he thinks I'm overreacting but I'm feeling terribly lonely in an otherwise great relationship going on 8 years . And I really don't think I should have to always settle .. I'm feeling great about myself for the first time in years and I want to feel wanted by my guy .. he doesn't want to take it seriously ...

any tips ladies ? Please tell

Me in not the only one who feels this way