On Friday evening I logged into my husbands snapchat from my phone (he has never kept it on his phone). Uninstalled when he gets home, reinstalled when he leaves.

So I had my curiosity for a long time as to why. (I guessed his password correctly!)

Well, I found out that he had been receiving and sending nudes to a woman around the time we were engaged (7 months ago.) He saved some of the messages that were exchanged. At that time we were fighting a lot because he was still friends with a lot of women from his past and I wasn’t okay with it. So that’s why he said he fell into the “temptation.” He also admitted to being addicted to porn and hiding that. (My first marriage ended for the same reasons addicted to porn, dating apps, sexual Skyping, etc etc. ) even though the conversations were a month before the wedding, they continued to flirt and talk after that. She ended the sexual conversations because she just got engaged so they maintained a I guess a “flirtatious friendship”?? ANYWAY I sent the screen shots to her fiancé but, he hasn’t opened them. (Message still just says delivered.) I am wondering if she got into his account and deleted them. She has blocked me from everything. I also posted the conversations on his story so she could see that I had the proof because she immediately denied it when I told her that I found their old messages. So being 5 months pregnant and having my 3 year old here from my first marriage really made this entire thing even harder. I packed his shit and took it to his friends house. He got off of work and finally realized what had happen so he immediately starts trying to call me. I couldn’t answer I was too worked up. After about an hour he came by and wanted to talk and for the first time he actually took responsibility for his stupidity! [Any time we argued before about him sending flirtatious messages with “friends” he would say “it’s just my insecurities from my first marriage.” ] He too was married before to a controlling woman, so he thought by me saying I don’t like the flirting was me trying to get my way. So now he has deleted all social media’s, the “friends” from his past, and put an accountability app on his phone. So anything inappropriate will be flagged. He has been cooperative (FINALLY) to what I’ve been saying since the beginning about these trashy ass women. I can’t believe he admitted he had been wrong for the last 3 years about people who don’t need to be in your life. Part of me really wants to try and see if he wants that change but being in this similar position with my ex has made it all harder. He says his family is all he wants but, I have the resentment now. The last 5 months we have been able to get into a good place and going to counseling but, finding out all that made it seem like all a waste of time. He recently became a Sheriff deputy at the Jail to “better himself for his family” but, I can’t help wonder why now and not when he asked to marry me!? She even knew we were engaged. I know this is petty/bitchy to say but, she also is 5 times my size even me being pregnant (really big girl) and comes off as this super Mormon girl who posts nothing but bible verses on her Facebook. I just want her fiancé to know so she understands what she did to me!! I told him if I ever see anything come up on his phone especially fucking snapchat. I will not hang around long enough to hear any excuse. It’s about family not your ego. And this small town is toxic; full of trashy, cheating, and egotistical people. We move in a month, hopefully that helps. For now, I have to be a strong mama and see if he can show me he wants this. (Still fucking mad that she’s getting married in a month and the fiancé still has no clue.) thinking about sending the conversations to one of his family members on Facebook. 😬 BUT that may be too much. These pregnancy hormones will bring out the bitchy side.