Alright so I planned a thanksgiving dinner about a month ago: I invited all the family. My in laws my parents. I even invited my step sister and her husband. I was really excited because this would be the first holiday in 10 years that my parents will be at a holiday together. They’ve been divorced for 10 years and I’ve always tried to keep them separate. My mom had her own issues with my dad.

I went out and spent a couple hundred dollars on food for the entire family. I wanted to make sure we had enough to eat and my family can take leftovers home.

I went and bought sweet potatoes. Like 8 of them. Why? Because my in laws like sweet potatoes. I bought a 23lb turkey, and a 9lb ham. Not to mention the green bean casserole, corn, carrots, mashed potatoes, and stuffing I’m making.

About an hour ago I get this text from my MIL. She said that my FIL went out and bought a turkey because they want to stay home. They don’t want to be around a bunch of people.

Well excuse me, last I checked this was my house. And those “ people “ are MY family. I really found that offensive. Am I wrong for feeling that way?

I’m also pissed because she waits to inform me the night before! If I had known yesterday or even Monday, I wouldn’t be as pissed. I wouldn’t have bought so much food.

The biggest nut kick is my in laws ALWAYS ask for us the have holiday dinners. The 1 time my dad is coming, they don’t come. Not to mention my BIL and his wife won’t be coming. Their reason is legitimate. His wife is from another state. They’re going to see her parents. But of course they don’t come so my MIL and FIL decide they won’t either.

Am I wrong to feel like this? Is it selfish? This isn’t the first holiday they’ve done this to me. And yes my husband did text his mom to confront her. She hasn’t responded yet.

***UPDATE: My MIL responded to my husband. She sent this long text on how I never called her back a week ago.

I admit I didn’t. I got very busy and didn’t have the time. I planned to talk to her about it at dinner. Anyways, she basically tried to blame me. She said had I called or texted back, she would have informed me they weren’t coming.

Boy did that piss me off. Here’s a screen shot of what I sent her.

Earlier this year I had called their home phone, trying to get in touch with them. A couple times my FIL answered and told me my MIL would call me back. She never did.

It went on for about 3 or so months. I never said a word about it. I let it go. My husband has even tried to contact them. They ignored him.

It wasn’t until May around Mother’s Day and her birthday we were able to get in touch and see them....

I love how she tried to blame me to my husband. Does she really think he would take her side, especially after the way they’ve treated him?