he is manipulative but i love him. joker and harley irl

so is it an issue with your spouse never defending you to anyone that you ever hear? Or would that be acceptable? Or the fact that you say they look good in a outfit and they immediately change? Or that they tell you half ass stories about what's going on and what they say is usually wrong. Or your house that you share with roommates, that you've paid for mostly on your own, not being able to tell people things that upset you with out them (spouse) attacking you and saying your selfish? Or mean? Wtf. Any feed back would be helpful.

Thanks

(I did not type this, my boyfriend did and posted it on Facebook, where his friends and family already don't like me)