"You touched it last"

That was kind of the rule growing up, it identified responsibility, made us take ownership, without making a big deal. My husband didn't grow up with the same rule, his parents were somewhat absent and he was left to his own devices. I don't get the sense that he and his brother fought like I did with my brother, so maybe the rule wasn't needed. I don't want to be a nag and constantly tell him what to do, but I also don't want to have to keep putting things away he leaves out. I feel like saying "you touched it last" is childish, but on the other hand it is effective. We live differently, I like a clean space, he doesn't care. We've talked about it and he gets upset, saying that I always get my way and he's always compromising. How have you handled a situation like this?