My boyfriend can't turn me on

I won't get turned on or wet unless I give him head & play with him & then I'm ready to go after seeing him go crazy. But whenever he tries to kiss on me & suck on my boobs & eat me out which I love, I'm just still not all the way on yet I have to play with him to fully get there. I told him this many times & I guess it hasn't registered but he tried to do a lot of things to get me in the mood & thought I was ready to go until he slid it in & I was really tense & tight down there. He was telling me to open up 😒 Literally sounded like my gyno! & I told him I wasn't doing it on purpose & he got frustrated & went to sleep. This was just a super fail & I think it hurt his self esteem but he didn't give me a chance to explain & now he's all hurt & silent.