Please tell me I'm not crazy!

So my husband recently turned 30. For last 6 months or so he has been obsessed with spending every free minute he has with his friends. He's over at his friends house at least 4 days a week after work and most days of the weekend. He got back from a three day camping weekend this past weekend. On Monday, my friend took my kids over night, he brought me home flowers and I thought he was being sweet. I was making dinner and he starts poking at me trying to pick a fight but pretended he was joking. He brought up that he would he was leaving again this weekend for ANOTHER 3 days with his friends so I said "do you think it's inappropriate for a man with two toddlers and a wife at home to be going away for two weekends in a row?" And he BLEW THE HELL UP. He started screaming and told me I was crazy and said if I didn't get on board he was going to DIVORCE ME. He told me that his friends wives work two jobs (they don't have kids and I'm a SAHM) and that I had the two kids just to get him to stay. I walked away from the fight, he followed me and told he was "scared for our relationship because we fight over the same things constantly and he's never going to not go out or let me tell him what to do". Then so you know what the hell he said?!?! He said that the kids ARE MY HOBBY and I get to spend everyday with them having fun and his dirkbike is his HOBBY so he's going to go out and ride every weekend while he's young enough to do so. He then told me he wanted to start counseling to save our marriage but the therapist is going to tell me I'm crazy and overbearing and he's the one thats right. Then tonight he didn't even come home after work he went straight to his friends house but texted me to save him dinner😒 My question is, he keeps telling me he is going to file for full custody of our kids because I don't work and that he'll never let me see them. My family live on the other side of the country because we moved here for his job so i feel really stuck right now.