Rather do it yourself then have sex sometimes

Ok so I used to be with this man for over 5 years sex was great at first but could have been the drugs honestly. Then drugs never stopped for him and his dick didn’t continue to be a dope dick anymore. Like seriously it wasn’t even worth taking my underwear off for. Once he stuck it in he was done. One and done baby! Well now I am happily married and my hubby takes normal amount of time or longer and I am like after 10/15 min like saying you better get off as I o for the 90th time. Nothing wrong with that but sometimes I rather take a nice hot long shower and take care of my urge with my shower head and not have sex. I love sex and want it all the time but for some reason I either don’t want to go threw with the whole process.