huge fight with SO

I just got into a huge argument, am I in the wrong?

start off with saying we have been together for five years and have two children, our daughter is two and son is five months.

At the start of the relationship he said he doesn't get into Christmas and bdays as much. Well go by the years and I'm devastated.

He works everyday but Sundays and when he gets home during the week he jumps straight in the shower yells out and goes I need clothes and a towel and then I make dinner and then he sits on he's phone till 8 and goes to bed, doesn't spend time with us all the kids, I get he's tired but would rather see us or your phone.

I got my back cut open and six stitches because they thought my mole was cancer, I been sick all week and still managed to do house work and dinner but yesterday I got barely any sleep and I just wanted to relax and the house worth wasn't going anywhere, he gets home throws a hissy fit cleans the house and says I'm lazy. I had a shower before bed and I need to put the sheet on the bed and I said don't go bed wait two seconds and I'll make the bed because I can't sleep with out a sheet on the mattress, well he dipped it and slept on the couch.

Today during our argument I was upset because he isnt getting me anything for Christmas and I just got upset, I feel so unappreciated and just depressed, he wants to breakup and leave because I wing to much for childish things, he doesn't kiss hug me or hold my hand only sex when he wants it. I'm 20 hes 31 and life is to short but I love him to death but what the fuck am I doing :( he pushed me today and I said would you like that if someone did that to your daughter, he then left in he's car.

its so hard I don't know what to do I love him so much and it would kill me to see him someone new, I got so many bills also and just moved into a expensive house and he starts doing this shit :( sorry to vent I don't have friends or fanily talk to