Hi ladies,

I just don’t even know what to do. I feel so hurt, so disgusted with my mother and I don’t even know what to do.

I got the results of my DNA test back and found out not only is the man who raised me isn’t my dad, I am biracial and never even knew it! I feel deprived of my ethnic culture, family I never knew about, etc.

I know it doesn’t change that the man who raised me is my father but I just can’t help but feel sick to my stomach.

I am 28 years old and I don’t even know what to feel.

I have family I never knew about trying to contact me and tell me about my heritage but I don’t know if I even want to know them.

I don’t want to talk to my mom about it now in case the man who raised me doesn’t know I’m not his biological daughter. It would kill him.

I just wanted some advice on what I should do. Has anyone been in this situation before?

I had a baby 7 months ago and my dad watches her every day while I’m at work and he loves her with all his heart. I am at a loss. I feel physically ill.

Edit:

I really appreciate you guys responding. I don’t really think my mom will tell me the truth because I have asked her since childhood why I don’t look the same as her and my dad. I asked her if I was adopted and she always said no. I just feel so betrayed because I have gone my whole life thinking I was white with kinky hair and big hips to find out I’m actually black!

I love my father (stepfather whatever) no matter what because he did raise me from birth and his name is on my birth certificate. Maybe my real dad is scum, maybe he didn’t even know about me, I don’t know. I feel like my mom will never give me the real story because that’s just the type of person she is. Maybe when my dad passes away I will ask her, but until then I think I will just keep quiet. I know she will be very angry if I tell her that I know the truth. I don’t think I’m ready to connect with my African American relatives yet though. I still need time to process this information. But I feel like my daughter (who I guess is also mixed) should not miss out on the opportunity to know she has black roots also.