Endometriosis sufferers... please help :(

Husband & I are trying to conceive but finding sex in general impossible.

I will be dry & feel in need of lube or else entry is very painful. While in, i do not feel anything other than pain. I go from dry to very wet (even if I do not feel aroused) and it’s wet to the point where he cannot feel anything and cannot hold erection. I do not personally feel watery like substance dripping from me, but it’s clearly not him. He feels nothing but slip and slide and I feel the same or a stabbing pain. It’s a bad cycle. We’ve been recommended trying preseed while trying to conceive, but even the smallest amount is impossible because of my excessive fluids.

Unfortunately, in addition we have noticed a smell. Not related to hygiene and not accompanied by a discharge. Not sure if my ph is off, but no symptoms of yeast infection.

We are struggling with all of this. I know my sex life has changed dramatically with endometriosis but now it is impossible.

He shared with me last night the only time he feels pleasure is when we are in the shower during my period, because he can actually feel me. He has asked if there are exercises I should be doing to tighten pelvic area... but I’m at a loss because the gyn surgeon and pelvic physical therapist I saw for 10 months of internal therapy told me part of my pain is from being too tight and not relaxed and that I shouldnt do Kegels. My only suggestion to him was that I needed more foreplay to loosen up to not be in as much pain. It’s ironic that everything he feels is so loose when everything I feel is so painful. Everytime during sex, I get a sensation my bladder is being hit, adding to the pain.

I have a history of inflammation (everywhere) and I am wondering if I need an elimination diet to help any of these symptoms. I understand there is just so much going on, physically and emotionally.

Are there any other endo women that have experienced this and have any advice ?

Last night he said he doesn’t know how we are going to last like this, with 0 sex life.

(Married 2

Years, together 8)