HELPPP boyf advice

Sooooo, me and my boyf have been together for 3 years now and I love and trust him with my life. I was a virgin when I met him and when we first got together it would always be him instigating sex and sexting and I loved it - made me feel like he wanted me and made me feel sexy af. He’s a chef and the last year or so he’s been working long hours and and days. We don’t live together.

He now very rarely instigates sex unless he’s drunk, when I try and sext he just brushes off most of the time. And he tells me constantly it’s just because he’s tired. I’m massively insecure and always take it personally when he turns me down and I feel soooo selfish. He’s so amazing, supporting and always makes me feel loved. But it really gets me down and my self esteem has plummeted, I feel like he doesn’t find me attractive anymore, he’s not the best at giving compliments either and I find myself fishing for them!

I love him so much and I’m in no doubt that he loves me endlessly, but this is more for em just to vent because I hate feeling so selfish! Maybe its just that I have a mega high sex drive and can’t imagine ever turning him down! 😂😂

Does anyone else feel this way!?