My parents are ostracizing me?

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So I’m a 17 year old girl and a little over a week ago my mother and I had a heart to heart conversation. For some background on this, about a year ago my brother did some bad things and it put a strain on our family, in retaliation I had sex with a few boys just because I didn’t know what else to do for validation.  Flash forward to now where I’m in a happy, healthy relationship with my boyfriend. Him and I still have sex but it’s out of love not lust. I told my mom everything because I thought she already knew or at least suspected. Directly after I told her, she was cool and calm, then she ignored me for the next 3 days. She keeps saying “I don’t even know who you are because you lied.” And “If you want to be an adult and have sex, I’ll let you be an adult and leave you alone.” I had my first job interview on Monday and all I wanted was her support which i received none of. My parents are Christian and so am I but is my mom in the right for not talking to me and not letting me serve communion and church because she found out I sinned? On the other hand what is the Christ-like thing to do? What should I be doing to mend the relationship with my mother who won’t listen to reason?

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I think the "Christ-like" thing to do would be to stop fornicating and/or get married. Especially if your living under your moms roof, you should respect her rules.

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Personally, I believe there needs to be action on both ends. Your mom doesn’t seem to be acting out of loving correction as Paul instructs is to do, but also living a lifestyle of sin is a no-go as well. Serving in church while living a sinful lifestyle is problematic, but again, your mom seems to have issues to figure out as well.

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1. Resisting sin is hard. And confessing to sin is hard. I️ want to applaud you for confessing to her. I️ wish I️ was brave enough to do that. 
2. I️ think she is ignoring you because she is hurt. I️ feel like a lot of Christian parents feel more hurt during situations like this because our mistakes come with a price: death. My mom would for sure be the same way. 
3. Premarital sex is a sin. So I️ would pray and research myself if I️ was you. And just stay away from sex

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I agree that action needs to be taken on both sides. Christ loves all of us, but not our sins and was bold in telling us to "Sin no more". We cannot be saved in our sin. Sounds like your mom is dealing with things in her own way and trying to stay close to His teachings

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So lately I’ve been reading a book called Driven By Eternity, and it talks a whole lot about sin. I’m 18, had sex once at 15, and my mom ignored me too, so I get it. However, I have learned a lot since that experience. 1. Even though you say you are having sex out of love instead of lust, and intend to marry that person, it is a sin. A lot of us attempt to justify our sins. God is forgiving, but we cannot continue to sin willingly and knowingly and just expect him to forgive. Fulfilling our earthly desires isn’t worth risking an eternity in hell. (Im not saying you’re going to hell, just something I’ve been researching) 2. Give your mom time. Moms are weird, a little crazy even. You’re her little girl, and all she wants is what’s best for you. 3. I know that it’s hard not to have sex. I think about it constantly. Really strive to eliminate it. It’s so worth it in the end!

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Okay my love, you’re in a hard position. You went through tough things. I need to let you know that God loves you no matter what your choices are. I know it may seem normal for people to have sex outside of marriage but (as you most likely know already) God doesn’t agree. But, God is loving and kind, He will always be there to turn to even if your life has sex out of marriage. Your Mother is none of my business. Nor is your life. I’m sorry you are going through this, but the best thing I could say is; talk to God, He loves you more than anything. Spend time with Him. Let Him become the one you love the most. Always know God loves you no matter what and so does your Mother. If you still can’t figure things out talk to an adult, one you trust. The Bible also has the answers. Love you baby hang in there 💕💕

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I would say because of your age that’s why your mom is so upset, and I totally see her side of the situation. 
However I also know how hard it is to  tell your mum such a personal matter/matters, despite being mad/upset about you having sex she should be glad and feel happy that you told her. At the end of the day, We’ve all done an been there it’s just they most of us keep it a secret and pretend we haven’t done it. I think your mom should be glad she’s brought you up to be able to speak to her about anything,  isn’t that what moms are for? It’s totally unfair that she didn’t support you in your job interview! 
Don’t rush into marriage just bcos you want to have sex, just be cautious and careful remembering education and your career is more important. 
And despite what anyone says or thinks Only God can judge you, and he also forgives, and you clearly know what you have done wrong so don’t worry about other opinions as long as you’re being safe and protecting yourself and thinking of your future

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I think your mother is definitely wrong in this situation, she is meant to be a parent and should act like one. Silent treatment is considered a form of emotional abuse, so please don’t let anybody convince you that you’re wrong in this situation because you haven’t done anything to be ashamed of.

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You need to get out of this toxic situation! You aren’t in the wrong on this front. I understand if your mother would be a little hurt, but this is wildly unnecessary and unkind. Forgive in your heart, make sure you’re alright, and move on with your life.

My parents are ostracizing me?

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