Best friend doesn't approve pregnancy....

I first want to start off by saying that I do plan to talk to her but she is currently in Thailand for two months. I am posting this because I want to hear from ladies with similar experiences and how the situation was handled....

So in November my husband and I decided that we were going to try and conceive in January. At that point in November we had only been married 4 1/2 months. We were both very excited but I was a little scared too and I needed support from my best friends (I don't have family and def wasn't going to talk to his about it). I made plans to talk with 3 of my closest friends one on one. My best friend who I have known for 12 years couldn't meet till Wednesday so I met with her last. I expected at least one to say, "why the rush? enjoy being married alone first before having a baby", but I didn't expect the reactions I got from the first two friends. Vern shed a tear and told me we would be wonderful parents! She also said that if I were stressed about timing it wait a year, but that she couldn't wait to be an aunt to our perfect little bean. Next Missy squealed. I honestly thought she would be the one who think we were rushing into it. She was so happy for us and couldn't say enough how happy it made her.

Two things that both conversations had were support and they both brought up my past (family and trust issues too long to go into detail) but they were so happy to hear that despite major emotional challenges in my life that I was considering morherhood. And then I talked to my Bestie.

A little back story on her. I introduced her to her husband 7 years ago. They fell in love that day and have been together ever since. He was friends with my husband years before I met either of those boys. I officiated their wedding two years ago. Prior to having this conversation with her they had been having troubles, but always managed to work it out. The day we met up I was really excited to talk to her about it, but didn't expect the beating I got from her. "Why?" "Are you ready for what it's going to do to your body?" "It's going to ruin your relationship with your husband" "You haven't even travelled the world!" "Why don't just adopt?" "Why do you have to have your own child? There are starving children all over the world who need homes!" "You're going to gain so much weight" "Are you ready for the pain and blood and crying?

It went on and on. She hit every single pin point of anxiety and depression that I have been working on. Body Dysmorphia. Abandonment. Adoption(I was adopted and had a negative experience). She simply could not find one singular supportive thing to say. Even in front of my husband later at dinner, who had not yet heard how our conversation had gone. That night she sent me a text. It said something like "I love you both, of course you'll make wonderful parents one day. I want you to just think about this: This is a life time commitment and you haven't even been out of the country. Once you have a kid, that's it. It's all about them, no fun or trips, or alone time. I will be happy to be an aunt, when the time comes." I told my husband about our day and he was livid. When he calmed down he said that actually he wasn't too surprised because she was projecting. It wasn't about me at all. It was about her own personal fears and insecurities in her own marriage. Still, it was damaging. We didn't talk, text, snap for two months. I know I should talk to her about it, but I just don't know how to approach it because we are both very defensive types. Sorry for putting all my shit out there but I wanted to know: have any of you ever had a close friend or relative who did not support your pregnancy or thoughts of having a child? Did they ever come around? If so, how. Thanks.