My SO and I each have three children each from previous relationships and then we have a 5 week old daughter together.

SO has two teenage children with one woman, and then a 4 yo with another. Here’s the thing, the mother of the 4yo left my SO for another man when their daughter was a baby. Then she left that man for another that she married. Then last year she moved over state line with a completely different man. Now, after their split my SO moved a couple hours away to get a “fresh start”. He ended up meeting me and the rest is history. But we decided a few months ago that we were going to move to be closer to his children, specially 30 minutes away from his 4yo. I’ve switched my children’s school, I’m leaving my job of nearly 7 years and starting over. Did I want to? No. But for the sake of our blended family I decided it was best. And being only 30 mins away from his 4yo seemed amazing so that we would have more than just a couple days every couple of weeks to bond.

Well we are about 2 weeks from being completely moved. And she tells SO that she is moving - 2.5 hours away from our new house. So roughly 3 hrs away from where they live currently and they will be moved in 2 weeks.

I am livid. She claims her and her boyfriend just aren’t getting along. Then she tells him the wrong town, changes it to an even farther town claiming she got a Manager’s position. I don’t know/care if she is lying or not - seems fishy. The point is I’ve uprooted mine and my children’s lives for nearly no reason. We’ll still be driving hours to see his daughter. The only plus side is his older children will be closer but being teenagers they aren’t much for coming over. More like going out to dinner and such.

I knew when I fell in love I was taking on three more children. But I just can’t chase his ex around for the next 10-12 years because she apparently can’t get it together. 😡