I’m in love with my best friend. He’s been a close friend of mine for several years and we spend a lot of time together. He is always there for me when I need him. I didn’t mean to fall in love with him, but I did.

Now every time we spend time together, I can’t help but think about how much I love him and want to be with him. Normally I am a confident woman and I’m not afraid to initiate this sort of thing, but with him I have no idea what to do if anything.

He has never come out and said it, but I think he is asexual or something along those lines. He has confided in me about a lot of things from his childhood, one of them being that he was sexually abused as a child. His mom was a drug addict while he was growing up and the men she had coming in and out of her life abused him in a lot of different ways.

It completely traumatized him and he cannot look at sex in a healthy way. He doesn’t to hear about sex or talk about it, he definitely doesn’t to be touched in that way.

He has never been in any sort of romantic relationship and has never expressed any interest in being in one.

I love him enough that I would be fine being in a sexless relationship with him. I can live off self satisfaction in that department. I also personally do not want children, so that also isn’t an issue. But I don’t know how to approach him about this. I think if he knew I wouldn’t ask him for sex or touch him in any way he didn’t want, that he might would give it a romantic relationship a try with me.

I don’t want to lose him as a friend but I don’t want to regret never trying with him either. I have no clue what to do.