How to deal with a miscarriage?

Question

I found out I was pregnant with my third child back in November. Today I had my first appointment with the doctor. I told her that I've been having spotting for the past 2 days. She did an ultrasound and couldn't find the heartbeat. Me and my husband were devastated, still am. How do I tell my kids and parents/family. They were excited to know about the baby. I'm looking for some advice. Thanks

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I’m so sorry. I had two miscarriages this spring, just 6 weeks apart. With the frost, we hadn’t told anyone I was pregnant yet, so we had to tell everyone I was pregnant, but miscarrying. It was so sad. My husband told his parents. I called my parents and my sister. I texted a few friends. With my second miscarriage, we had told our families I was pregnant almost immediately. The second miscarriage happened at the same time that I had an ovarian cyst burst and ended up in the hospital. So our families all knew because of me being in the hospital. It was also really sad, but we were glad they knew I was pregnant before the miscarriage happened that time. I would suggest telling over the phone if you can. I’m so sorry for your loss, and hope you have future pregnancy success down the road!

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With my second miscarriage...I’ve had a few I told everyone cause it was also during my wedding so family was all around. However, when I did have the miscarriage, I called them all personally, and cried with them and accepted their condolences around it. It was extremely hard but glad I had the support.

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I was really young when I lost mine. I was only 14 (please don't judge). The only ones who knew was the dad and my best friend. Telling the dad was easy. he had already left me so a simple I lost the baby text did the trick. With my best friend I cried. I told him I didn't know what happened but I was bleeding really bad and I had a big clump come out. We found out later it was what was called spontaneous abortion. My body literally expelled the baby for no reason. I was 8 weeks. I then told my mom and that was the hardest part. I just said I needed to talk and blurted it all out. I figured was better to just say it then to stress and worry.

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First I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s so hard. 
I told my family I was pregnant at 7 weeks on Christmas 2016. Three weeks later I went in for a prenatal appointment and there was no heartbeat. Baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and I should have been 11 weeks. It was so hard telling family and the close friends who knew, but we told them and everyone was so supportive. 
I have no good advice. It took me a while to feel better. It also took us a little bit to conceive again (6 months). I am 26 weeks with my rainbow now. It’s stressful when I don’t feel her move for a while. I worry about stillbirth or preterm labor a lot. I also think a lot about my first baby - I am coming up on the year anniversary of my d&c.; Don’t get me wrong I do get excited, but it’s hard. 
Long story short though: I am really glad I told my close friends and family that a) I was pregnant at such an early stage and b) about the loss because their support was really amazing and I am so thankful for it now. It really helped me move through the grief. 
Also you’re not alone. I hope your physical and emotional recovery goes well ♥️

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