I've been dating my somewhat family friend since August and we've known each other since freshman year (seniors now), my mom is okay with the idea of me dating and dad is not. There are a few moments when he says he can't tell me to stop feeling for someone because he doesn't have control over who I like and whatnot which is great, but overall he still does not want me to date. I've been slowly letting them know that there's a guy in my life, but there's always a setback. His mom is friends with my dad and she's really nice but a bit on the judgemental side.

My boyfriend is completely honest with me for the most part and he absolutely understands and is fine with not being introduced yet seeing as he's intimidated by my dad 😂😂

His mom had a conversation with him about me, saying that it's time he meets my dad and all of that stuff. I get where she's coming from, but she knows my dad and knows how protective he is and he has his reasons (traumatic experiences) as to why he doesn't want me dating yet which is why my boyfriend wants to wait until we graduate this year and introduce each other as my lover.

I know I should've waited it out with him by making it official after we graduated, but my mind kept creating all types of "what ifs" and so when he asked me out for the third time that year (we went bowling that day) I agreed.

so yeah, should I just sit them down and talk it out?

Problem is my dad loves to have control over situations he can't handle, he's scared of not being able to protect me etc, and he has the bad habit of ending the conversation or giving the verdict before one begins to say what they need to say.