Critical MIL

Am I rude for not wanting to call or talk to my MIL often?

I have a super close bond with my mom, I’m an only child & grew up far from family that it was just me & my parents. So the way my MIL is just throws me off.

She is very monotone & never shows any hint of emotion. She criticizes everything. Our conversations are basically just her asking questions, whether its about our future plans, wtvr, and her just criticizing & trying to prove her opinion is the right one. I feel like she doesn’t like me but my husband always reassures me that if she didn’t agree with us being together, she would have made it known. Thankfully I don’t have to see her much as we live in UT & they live in Miami but I still don’t make it a point to just call her up to talk. I just don’t want to deal with the criticism. And there is no reason for it. We have stable jobs, nice house, nice cars, we spend money wisely. We’re calm, happy, and just enjoying life. Maybe she just still wants to feel like she has a bit of control or influence on us?

Is it rude tho that I don’t call her up often & that we don’t have a super close relationship? I’m never mean, I don’t talk back at her, I’m a shy/quiet person most of the time so I just nod & agree just to move along with it. I tell my husband I would rather be nice& stay quiet & not give her any ammo against me rather than if I was just straight up rude and arrogant.

It just comes down to I don’t want to deal with more of her criticism. I get enough from the calls hubby & I make together to her every other week.

One more reason that I don’t want to talk to her much. When I got pregnant in October, she was so bland &sounded; like she could care less about it & just ruined the moment. And then when I lost the baby 3 weeks later @7weeks, she basically told me to get over it & that shit happens. She then started on by telling us she had a miscarriage before she conceived her daughter. But that it happens and oh well. And in my head I’m just like “easy for you to say, it happened 18 fucking years ago and mine was yesterday.”

In the end, I’m just here to take care of and please my husband. I answer to him and vice versa. Our commitment is to each other and not anyone else. Her words don’t influence anything. You just get tired of the same broken record repeating the same crap. Those of you with MILs easy to get alone with, cherish it lol