Love languages

I've heard about the 5...or 6, hell I don't know how many but whatever... The love languages. Only briefly did a client mention something about them and how they helped him better communicate needs with his wife.

But I soon forget about it because I still had to work and my marriage wasn't in jeopardy so the client sounded more like a salesman for whoever came up with that.

About a week ago my husband starts reading stuff about it. I'm like

Then he comes home and is telling me he figured out that his love languages tell him he likes to perform acts of service

So I agreed trying to make a joke. He didnt catch the joke but then tells me that he thinks my love language is receiving things and people performing acts of service for me. At first I laugh and then I think "Did he mean I'm like materialistic and lazy?". I asked and he just gave me a funny face.

But I've been really questioning that too. Like super hardcore petty questioning it so I haven't asked him to do anything for me so he's suspicious now because I reply with "I can do that myself but thank you"

But today I made a mistake. Because I've been trying to do things for myself a lot, I didn't think about it when my mother asked if she could help me with anything and I told her, "I'm fully capable! People don't HAVE to do everything for me." and her face was just like

So I had to explain my recent weirdness to her and she told me to talk to him about it. And I did. He said he mainly said that because he wanted me to think about all the things he does for me but that none of those things were ever really a problem because he likes doing a lot for me and it gives him purpose. Part of me felt like an asshole and the other part felt like he was being unnecessary. Love languages my ass.

Wasted all of my time doing everything while he got a break and got to laugh at me 😒