Thinking of divorce

My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years (no idea where the time went) and we're catholic so divorce is a big no no. We are both Polish but grew up in very different households- my parents divorced when I was 5ish and his parents still together. My Husbands mom is the typical 1960s housewife where she took care of all the cleaning cooking child rearing, kept house clean and orderly, made supper for the husband, laundry, ironing, folding and she prides herself on that, whereas my mom worked to support me but wasn't ever really home oriented. She was an independent woman who put her career first. I saw my dad frequently since he moved out to only 2 blocks away. He didn't remarry so he did all the cooking cleaning laundry himself. Growing up, this way of life never phased me but as a married woman with two kids (one 6 and one 6 months) it's been a real challenge since my husband had his mom as an example growing up. He wants things done a similar way and I'm honestly having a difficult time juggling all the day to day responsibilities. It's so difficult prioritizing everything in the house with a kid on your hip half the time and my husband does not understand this. He often asks me sarcastically how do other mothers do it and worse, "if my mother did it so can you". Instead of being my support system he honestly makes me feel WORTHLESS and like a piece of absolute shit. We've been bickering about this since day 1 but it got better once I went back to work. I worked for 3 years and things were ok so that's why we started trying for baby number 2. All of a sudden, were back to square 1. Last night I was determined to make soup and dinner and get the kitchen cleaned after, while my 6 year old son did his hw and I kept giving anything to my baby to keep her entertained. My son did not finish all the hw and we still had to study for a spelling test so I told my son to leave the remaining phonics page to do over the weekend so we can focus of spelling. My husband lashed out and said that it was unacceptable and asked me why it was not done since I was home all day after school with him. (!!!!!!!) I wanted to say I was doing your dinner packing you lunch and cleaning the kitchen up you motherfucker but instead said sarcastically "I sat on the couch all day and did nothing". I later tried to neutralize the situation and tried to calmly reason with him letting him know life is not picture perfect and sometimes things don't always go smoothly in life but he just scoffed at me. Anyway, I have been thinking about divorce because I honestly don't want to live my life like this. I want to be someone who honestly loves and appreciates me for all he things I DO and not fight me for the one or two things I didn't do. Hell, I rather be alone than deal with this any longer but divorce is such a big step- not to mention depressing. It'll make me feel like a failure in life, following my parents footsteps....and I don't want to hurt my kids by this. I also have no where to move out to and finances would be a huge problem since he's in charge of all that stuff. I just feel so stuck and so trapped and don't want what to do 😞