MIL and husband rant

Since ive found out i was pregnant they both have drove me insane! Let me start from the beginning ive been outta work for almost 2 months due to me being really sick. Well anyway my husband makes smart ass comments about him paying for everything. Last summer we started adding on a bedroom to our house which is now gonna be he babys room which isnt even half way done there are no walls yet. Ive been beggin my husband to put money aside to finish the room but i have no idea where his money goes. My mil wants to be in the room when i give birth ive said no 100 times and she keeps pushing and so does my husband by making smart remarks. We dont even know what were having yet and she went out and bought a pink carseat with flowers on it like really? She also has bought clothes and a crib and toys from good will but said it will all stay at her house for when the baby stays and i want to say that my child isnt staying with her so bad but i know it will cause an argument between me and my husband. My husbands dad is a drunk and sometimes he goes on the rampages and it never ends well and i just dont want my baby around that. Also my husband and i have chosen the names we would like to use for our baby but a few days ago we were at my mil and he all of a sudden told her a name that was never talked about and she liked it and i made the comment that it was ugly and i wouldn’t do that they both got mad. And i know im a ftm but my mil and my husbands aunts are always trying to give me advice like I’m stupid (ex: this how you change a diaper this is how you hold a bottle.) And as far as visitors go my husband has told all his family members they are welcome at the hospital I’ve told him multiple times i didn’t want everyone there the rooms are tiny for one and for two I’m having a baby I’m gonna be tired and sore when im in pain the last thing i want is everyone in my face and passing my baby around like a hot potato.

Sorry this is so long. im just sick of it and i don’t know what to do nothing i say matters to any of them. They dont respect me what so ever.