my daughter hates me

hi parents. so I have 4 yr daughter and she is very spoiled child, her daddy doing everything that she wants but I'm not. and it's became huge problem, she started to hate me and telling me that in my face" I hate u mom I love my daddy" it's so painful to listen that and worst thing is all that situation makes my husband happy. I was trying to talk to my husband and told him don't do that, if I do something say her mommy is right. he is telling me u r her enemy. OMG how can a mom be an enemy of her child. I'm getting mad at my daughter coz she is not listening to me. like she is not eating not brushing her teeth or doing mess with Daddy sh can do everything she wants and she is 24 hours on TV or iPod or cellphone I'm no letting her to be on screen for 24 hours. today I changed sheets and putted them on floor she was playing on top of them. she went to couch and after few min I picked them up and wanted to put in washer,OMG she started crying so badly. I thought someone killing her. she went in daddy's hug and daddy started saying " what u did to my daughter,why u r doing this u wasn't here everything was ok once u r coming she is getting mad u r her enemy" and she started " I hate mommy I hate mommy". it's so hurt ladies. I'm crying while writing this post. I just don't know what to do. don't tell me to talk with husband coz I tried 1000 Tim's and it didn't work. plz plz plz give me some advice what to do,I'm so lost and confused