Have you or do you hate sex with your husband?

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I've been married for 6 years and the entire six years the sex had been so crappy. We get a good one in maybe once a year. I have NO sexual attraction to him. I find him so very handsome but just don't want him. The sex is mediocre and doesn't feel good at all. I try to find ways to help him please me but he messes it all up every suggestion and just frustrates me. My husband is simply bad in bed! I have to be extra horny to enjoy it and that doesn't happen often!

We separated about a year and almost divorced dur to unrelated issues and we both saw other people. The guy I was with turned me on more than anyone had in my life. I went from having sex twice a month to having sex up to FOUR times a day! It was never anything less than mind blowing. It was rough, adventurous, passionate...

Before I was with him, I thought something was wrong with me. Why am I in my twenties and not wanting sex. I saw doctors, check hormones, tried meds known to increase sex drive for many women...I was convinced I was sexually broken. Nope just my attraction to my husband! Sometimes I question if it's the size....my husband is average sized but the other was well above average. I love pain during sex and my husband can get that in one angle but that's it.

I push through because I won't let sex end the marriage to the father of my children but holy hell this really blows!

Anyone else had this issue? Did it ever change?

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This is hard...sex isn't everything but it is important. I couldn't be married to someone who didn't turn me on. Good sex has ended many big wars in my relationship. It has never solved our problems, but it definitely helps put our problems behind us. Best wishes love.

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I yes with ex but he was just a bf not husband

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My ex husband was horrible... my forever husband.. like wow...

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I have Completely stopped having sex with my SO I'm not sexually attracted to him and we aren't sexually compatible. We had sex for month to get pregnant and after my positive test I have cut him off completely. I won't even sleep in the same bed as him. It happens :-/

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Not married but I have the same issue... He's lazy and boring and only 30 years old..

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I have that problem sometimes. Usually not. We have been together 4 years married 1 and a half and we just get boring. Or he will want to and I just don't feel it. But then there are times when its amazing! I have maybe actually "gone" like 4 times we have been together but it doesn't bother me. I still love him.

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My husband is the same way...he's really bad, but I love him and he's a good man. I miss the mind blowing sex but after three years of marriage I just figured it was normal. The only time he's decent in bed is when he's drunk 😔 but since he quit drinking the sex has been horrible!

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Well, I said "yes" but I don't hate sex with my husband. I have a VERY low sex drive. I met my husband when I was 16 & he is the only one I have been with. My husband has a ton of medical problems & is on meds & they sometimes cause erectile dysfunction. Mostly, it is just that he doesn't get that hard or can't stay very hard sometimes. It is frustrating to me, because when I do initiate sex, because I am horny & really wanting that release it seems like thats when he has problems. I also can't orgasm vaginally (or never have anyways) so I need clitoral stimulation. I have found using toys helps a lot. I use a small butt plug sometimes, or anal beads. I use a vibrator to play with myself while he is inside of me. I honestly LOVE our sex life, but sometimes I do get frustrated. I love my husband to death & I love making him feel good, so most of the time if he gets off I am fine with that. I would just try aome different toys & things to spice up things. My husband knows where my g-spot is & he loves to get me on all 4s & hit it with a vibrator or his finger (I dont think he can with his penis) & that feels amazing.

Have you or do you hate sex with your husband?

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