I need advice that doesn’t come from my parents or friends I know

Me and my husband have been through hell and back . His parents never liked me because I was black & they are middle eastern (Afghanistan) and my parents dont like my husband because he’s packed his things on 2 occasions saying he wanted a divorce. I’m 9w5d with our 2nd child and he tells me he wants to divorce but wants to be boyfriend and girlfriend and try to see if we can get married again . I think it’s the dumbest thing ever but I’m so in love with him and I always have hope for the best . But I don’t want to settle for being his girlfriend . My mom and I have already made plans to move me and my son back home & have my car shipped . But my husband wants us to stay together in Kansas and raise our kids Together and be a “family” . My mom says if I stay with him she won’t support me anymore . Which is hard because I love my mom so very much and I feel like I have to choose my husband soon to be boyfriend or my parents. I really don’t know what to do at this point & everyone that knows our situation wants me back home . I want my husband I just don’t want to be his girlfriend . 🤷🏽‍♀️ im so lost