I got to find out the hard way that I have a incompetent cervix

On Thursday I noticed a creamy thick very thick discharge. (No know it was my mucus plug)It was red or pink. I was a little worried. But I had a doctors appointment on Friday. I had a hard time sleeping. When I got to my appointment I asked my doctor to check me because I had a really crazy discharge. He then sent me to the hospital. They told me that I was 2cm dilated. I didn't have any contractions. No pain. They wanted to see if I was a candidate for a Cerclage. I was in the hospital a full 24hrs before seeing the doctors. I was constantly check. Then when I got to meet the doctor I was told that my water bag was budging and that I only had a 10 percent chance of the surgery going well. Then 20mins after my water broke. I had to have a emergency D&E.; I loss my son at 21 weeks pregnant. I literally went to the doctors for a check up and came home 3 days later with out my son. I don't know how to handle this. To make matters worst. I had to explain to sooooooooooooooooooo many people what happened. I feel so naked in the eyes of the public. This is something so personal and private to go through in a public eye. Then my breast milk came in. Which was devastating to deal with. I have people still calling asking questions. We were getting ready to plan our baby shower and everything. But it didn't go that way. I am beyond sad. I don't want to talk about it. I'm tire of explaining. How am I suppose to heal? It has been 3 weeks now. It feels like it just happened yesterday. I have returned back to work. (I'm a nanny) It feels like everyday is a struggle just to get out of bed and pretend to be normal. I just want to feel normal. Then to have people I have spoken to in years call me to tell me they are sorry for my loss. That just makes me even more mad. Why would u even call me? Why would you say something to me? What's give the right to speak on my situation?