Am I wrong for feeling so hurt?

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My so & I had shower sex & I've never done anal & he's been wanting to for awhile but I always say no! & today he hurried & stuck it in, it hurt so bad & I hurried out the shower, & cried bc it hurt so bad & bc he laughed at the whole situation thinking it was funny.

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That is really shitty of him. He basically forced you to do something sexually that you didn't consent to, which by definition is rape. I would sit him down and discuss with him how you're feeling. If he still doesn't seem to care you need to think about how you feel being with someone that would do that to you.

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Honestly i probably would have kicked his ass he defiantly would be sleeping alone on a couch for a while

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That's pretty sick of him laughing honestly. I would probably be scared to have sex with him because if he wants it that bad and tried to do it even if you said no what will stop him next time. This happened twice to me but my bf quickly stopped and I started crying and he felt so bad and now he's more careful

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No you're absolutely not. He violated your trust but if you don't feel it was done maliciously and more because guys can be insensitive jerks then I would talk to him. I would let him know that since he can't be trusted then why would you 1. Try anal with him 2. Have sex with him at all. You have the power in the sense that if he doesn't treat you the way you want to be treated sexually then you don't need to have sex with him. He's not entitled to anything. It sounds like he needs to be taught a lesson on respecting your feelings and body! I say no sex till you want to or feel that he's gotten the point. I guarantee you he won't be laughing then.

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I had said no, he forced you anyway. Kinda sounds like rape in my opinion.

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No you are not wrong!... That is a sensitive situation because yall need to both want it to enjoy it. If you don't want to just yet he needs to accept it... But on the other hand you should still have an open mind about it in the future... And he can't just force it in because it is painful if you aren't used to it!... Personally I like it but I started with beads (sex toy) not a dick at first its waaay easier. Then as you progress gently try with a Dick but he needs to be gentle and patient while you are transitioning to it...in the end its so worth it!

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It was so wrong for him to do something like that! He's an ass!

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1. Your feelings are never wrong. They're uncontrollable and irrational by definition. 2. What he did was totally inappropriate. You said you're not interested, and he did it anyway. Y'all need to have a serious talk about his violating your trust.

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That was really wrong of him. He violated your trust and did something you were not ready for.  He was probably laughing because he was embarrassed and ashamed of himself.  As you know guys can be jerks and do not always express their emotions properly. Talk to him about, make sure  he knows how upset you are and that it is unacceptable behavior. Make sure he knows never to pull that kind of crap again.

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What a piece of shit. Report him, that's rape.

Am I wrong for feeling so hurt?

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