Disrespectful?

I just want to get other points of view is it rude/Disrespectful for my man to randomly go to bar after work and not let me know when Ive asked him to and he'd expect me to tell him where I'm going? He knows it bugs me ( because he has a drinking problem and it's never good when he drinks hard liquor) that's why I'm thinking he doesn't tell me. That's like lying though and just seems utterly disrespectful. I'm not going to stand barefoot in the kitchen and "figure it out". No. He wanted me to communicate better earlier in the relationship so why can't he? And now he goes to the bar more now that we've become parents and gets drunk/"buzzed" enough to be his super defensive self when he drives/gets home which also irks me as well. I'm just worried but he has a problem so I spose he can't see that or why "I'm on his back" so much. Like if I knew problems always started with me lying / drinking hard liquor, I would stop... sure it's a "stress reliever" for a short time but then your stress elevated. I know I'm sick of living this way, don't know why he isn't. Gotta go check on my daughter cuz I put her down to sleep but of course he doesn't give a shit. Ugh.